April 7, 2014

G for Guilt trips!!!


As humans we often tend to feel guilty for things that we have done or sometimes for things that we haven’t done but think we should have done. If you are a sensitive person like me, you tend to feel guilty for many things that you are not responsible for as well.

As a person, I grew from feeling guilty all the time to sometimes.  I learned to believe that you are not responsible for everything. Everyone in your life could make you feel guilty. Yes, when I say everyone means literally everyone. Directly or indirectly. It all depends on how you take it.
  • When you are young, your parents make you feel guilty by saying, “Look at Kalpana. She is so hard working. She never watches T.V. You are always glued to that”
  • Older siblings could make you guilty by showcasing how clumsy you are. Trust me, they don’t tell you how to be neat.
  • Your dad would say, “See that Sukumar was boasting about his kids in the office. His son is the badminton champion and his daughter won the Math Olympiad this year also.” (That fellow can't hit two marbles and his silly sister cannot put the dots straight for a rangoli! I curse in my head) And adds a tag line, you guys are fit for nothing.
  • When you are grown up, mom nags. “When will you get married? No prince charming is going to come looking for you. Look at Geeta, she already has two kids”. Bloody hell with Geeta, the whole purpose of life for her is to get married and have kids.
  •  For the heck of it, you get married and a new kind of nagging begins. The reasons your in-laws make you feel guilty about, that deserves a post in itself.
  • S comes home and... “Look at Srilatha’s house. You should train from her”. Darn it! She has OCD! Honey, I am not cut out for that crap.
  • How a wife can make a husband guilty: (Not me though ;-). "See, Neelima got a Tahitian Pearl set as her birthday gift. You never buy me anything". Husband thinks to himself, "You fool...her husband takes her $10k paycheck and gifts a $1000 gift once a year.
  • Then your kids. Despite working full time, cooking every day, picking and dropping to classes, sonny boy goes, “You never come to field trips”. Give him a piece of your mind, “I do everything from baking to fundraising. Now, will you please excuse me? I have a full time job”.
  • Daughter’s turn. “Maya has a very good hair style. You never comb my hair properly”. If you utter one more word, I am going to chop off that hair.
  • Super moms say, “Oh!! I can never leave my kids. Isn't that how mommy’s boys are made?” 
  • Colleague: I heard they Brian is getting the 'Employee of the Quarter' this time.
Moral of the story: Don’t feel guilty. Stop taking guilt trips. They will only pull you down. There is only so much you can do. Don't stretch beyond what you can and try to be a superhero :-)



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16 comments:

  1. hehehe brilliant post. I wonder why would anyone fall for guilt trips.
    Great read indeed.

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  2. haha. Ya we get people who make us guilty every min. It is up to us to bang the head or make them go above the head
    good post Prudhvi

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  3. Well said...as mothers we are blamed for whatever the kids do or don't do. Good one.

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  4. There are so many out there waiting to make us feel guilty all the time! Lots of humor in the post !Thank you for making me smile on such a serious topic !

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  5. Wonderful post. Most of my guilt is self-inflicted as a writer. I really should be paying attention to my children instead of using these brief moments to write something that brings me pleasure. Then I never get any writing done, and end up frustrated and overwhelmed.

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  6. AGREED! While it's still difficult to let go of what I have no control over, this is a very important message to continue to work with. In my faith, we say "I confess to almighty God and to you my brothers and sisters, that I have greatly sinned, in my thoughts and in my words, in what I have done and in what I have failed to do. It's the omission of guilt that I think is a really important and overlooked aspect when considering the ramifications. Thanks for keeping it at the forefront!

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  7. A good lesson. Sometimes I think the only trips I go on are guilt trips! Enjoyed it

    Carol at http://batteredhope.blogspot.ca/2014/04/g-is-for-galloping-down-highway.html#.U0RjiCiPNW8

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  8. Wonderful post. I usually go into guilt trips when I have lots to write and forget that I need to clean the house too :P

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  9. Too good. Loved every line in there :) Keep them coming.

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  10. I have a lot of guilt trips and I hate them!!!

    ~S(t)ri
    Participant|AtoZ Challenge 2014
    Smile, it makes (y)our day!

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  11. hahahha!! You managed to put a hilarious spin to it even though all that nagging is actually so annoying!

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  12. LOL @ "Darn it! She has OCD! Honey, I am not cut out for that crap" :D A fun and hilarious read Latha! :D

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  13. I think that 'guilt' - our own or those that people try to use on us is a sin!
    You always make me smile! Thanks.

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  14. Yep, guilt trips slowly gnaw their way into oneself!

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  15. True. We should have thought about it in the first place. No point thinking about it later and feeling guilty.

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