Ten on Tuesday - 1 !!

In this world of nuclear families, we seldom opt to live with our parents except for few people. The only time they are with us are either for holidays, any special occasions or if either the parents or we are not keeping well. In case of us who are staying abroad, parents visit us once in a while and when they do, they do stay for 6 months. Staying so far away from home land, we definitely do miss our family and are very excited on their arrival. At the same time, we are used to a certain lifestyle and their presence seem to be an intrusion to our daily schedules. It takes time for them and for us to adjust to each other again.

Okay, let me not beat about the bush. I'm coming there to the point. With all my experience and expertise, here I come up with a small lecture to bore you guys:

1. Never say bad things or complain about their son aka your hubby. Do not point out his in-capabilities. Do you really think it's going to work? Bleak chances of your problem being solved. 
2. We all know you are a social butterfly who has a wagon of friends. But, keep them aside for a while. Don't speak on the phone for long. Especially guys. Do you really want to gossip with your girl friends? Do it offline.
3. I think this should stand as the first point. If they love to cook, leave the kitchen to them. If you feel they'll mess up your kitchen, that's okay. You can fix it later. If you think your $400 cooking set is going to get spoiled, stow away into the garage and get one for $50 while they are here.
4. They have come a long way leaving their nest, their neighbors, relatives and everyone. You confined them to the four walls the whole day. So, they would love to go out. Be it shopping or to the park. Let them go..forget the front seat of the car for the next 6 months. If they want something, buy it for them. You aren't going to save a fortune on their shopping.
5. Even if they are REALLY extra nice people, do not bitch about your hubby, SIL or your own family too. Remember, blood is thicker than water. You are always an outsider. Every word counts. In some moment of weakness, you crib about your mom's side of the family, you are putting your head in their hands. 
6. If you don't like them interfering in kids' matters, tell it slowly and softly or through their sons. Rudeness just make matters worse. Kids try to take advantage of the extra love and affection they are getting in this period. Be firm with the kids.
7. It's okay to not show them every single thing that you shop. Some are happy that you are able to buy what you want, while some think you are wasting money on useless stuff. What they don't know, won't hurt them.
8. Parents want that extra time with their son. That doesn't mean they are taking away your hubby. If you think they influence him or he listens to them and takes it out on you, make it even with him. Go on a date, speak your heart out and ask what has changed? This is the most difficult and crucial spot.
9. Guys, your eating habits must have changed after marriage. So, try to make a balance when appreciating the food made by mom or wife. You could hit a raw nerve here.
10. In this last stage of life, what are they here for? After all, to take good care of your kids, serve you hot food and live the rest of the life with fond memories. They deserve a little respect and love. 

P.S: I have written this as a DIL. These are applicable to all with slight modifications. It's almost Wednesday...