May 28, 2013

Life is Precious!!!

Sudha had a picture perfect family. As a housewife, she never worried much about working and making a big career though her peers were very competitive and career oriented. She found pleasure in serving and taking care of her husband and two sons.

Her older son Vibhas was twelve; academically a very smart kid and had no troubles at all. The younger one Suhas was a very lively, cheerful kid. He was an average student at school, but extremely street smart. They were surprised how he would maintain the bio-data of everyone at school. Her husband would joke that even if left in a desert, he would survive.

She dreaded as his birthday was approaching. She was too tired of celebrating kids' birthdays. She said that she's not going to celebrate any more birthdays from next year. No more birthdays and friends coming home.

It feels like it just happened yesterday. The events of that last week unfolded in front of Sudha's eyes.
Thursday
Suhas didn't take his food well that day. Sudha didn't want to push him much. She thought he would eat if he was really hungry.  That day, he woke up at mid night to use the bathroom. Sudha found him holding the washing machine and standing. When she inquired what's wrong, he said, his head was spinning.
Friday.
Suhas was normal the next day and played with his friends as usual. He puked in the later part of the day. They took him to a General Physician for check-up. The doctor said it could be due to a gas problem and prescribed some medicines for it.
Saturday.
Sudha and her husband noticed the kid was getting weak physically. They noticed his facial expressions changing. Suddenly his mouth would twitch. But he would become normal again.
Sunday.
Sudha decided to take him to an emergency as she felt the kid was becoming weak. She gave him a slice of bread and a glass of milk for breakfast. While she was feeding him, he threw up yelling "Don't pull my eyes". Something was not alright. She could sense it. May be it is what they call a mother's instinct.
That was the last thing she remembered him saying. They rushed him to an emergency and the doctors did CT, MRI. They discovered two big tumors and had to perform two back to back surgeries. Even before they realized what was happening, they witnessed their precious son lose the battle of life.

Someone said, he came to this earth when his mom was 8 1/2 months pregnant. He left when he is 8 1/2 years old.

Sudha recollected yelling at him, Go, go and die whenever he troubled her. Did her words have the power to make things happen? If so, can she get her little baby back?

P.S: Based on a real incident. After this incident, I stopped cursing my kids. Though they drive me up the wall, this is like an eye-opener for me as how short and unexpected life is.

36 comments:

  1. This is a mother's worst nightmare come true.

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    1. I strongly wish it doesn't happen to any other mother in this world.

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  2. Very poignant and heart rending! Latha, I read this about an hour back and could not control my tears. I read this again .Very sad.

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    1. It had been in my drafts for so long now, Usha ji. It took me many months to put myself together to post this..

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  3. OMG! this is so sad and disturbing. Such a nightmare for the family :-0

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    1. It is, Uma. From what I heard, the family was never the same again :(

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  4. This is very sad...anything said in anger is never true, I wish no mother has to see this day..

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    1. I know...no mother will say things wantedly. Just out of frustration and anger, they blurt out..yep, no mother should see this day..

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  5. Yess sometimes what we say does come true. I am shivering Latha :(

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    1. I also feel that, Bhagya. I think there are Thadasthu devatalu somewhere up there...sorry for the disturbance, dear.

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  6. OMG!! This is so disturbing! :|
    A few days ago, I read a blogger's post on Mother's Day. Check out the link here... http://randomsnideness.blogspot.ae/2012/05/sweet-deranged-mother-of-mine.html?m=1
    And guess what, he died in a road accident!

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    1. It is, Shilpa. Very disturbing...Thanks for the link. I opened this link to read and couldn't read it as I got busy and then I lost it. Will do now. Yes, I heard he died in a road accident.

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  7. Sad indeed! That is why there is a saying that never use curse words, you never know when goddess of knowledge, Saraswati will come and rest on tongue to make the curse come true!!!

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    1. Scary!! I forget it and yell at them again. I keep reminding myself often..:(

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  8. I have heard elders say that there are vastu purushas in the house who keep saying, 'Tathastu!' whenever we say anything. This is to prevent us from saying anything bad. And, Latha, it is so easy to slip into angry language and use curses which we would never mean at other times. Still, a terrible thing to have happened...

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    1. You are right, BM. We really don't mean the words spoken out of anger and frustration..but it is deeply saddening when even one of those words becomes true. Unknowingly, I believe in it many times. Esp in the evening times, in the asura sandhya vela, they say "Tathastu devatas" roam..I am very scared to omit unpleasant things in that time....

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  9. It is a sad incident and nothing related to cursing.We tell so much about politicians and they thrive well.

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    1. You are right, KP sir. Cursing has got nothing to do with it. But when things go wrong, we feel, it's just because of that.

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  10. Akka...its hell for that mother:( I know how it is when the one you love the most leave you unexpectedly.Out of all relations in this world.. the only relation which is very precious is of a mother and kid and when one of them is no more in the world the loss is irrepairable!

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    1. Yes, Chaitu...a child, a mother...the pain is equally unbearable. You echo my thoughts here..

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  11. Yes , I agree with KP, we are all human, and as such we are bound to say such things often, which is the result of our irritation, they really mean nothing, unless we give a meaning to it.
    Of course we must not show our anger and irritation, in an abusive language, because it doesn't sound good to us too,and that is something we have to practice in our everyday life, but attaching such dire consequences to them is not correct.When things have to happen they would happen anyway,it is just our guilt that attaches meaning to such happenings.
    So when we utter some thing negative, super impose it immediately with positive thoughts and the same Tathastu will bless your thought, which actually means "so be it". One can always change negatives into positives all the time, only thing is we forget and keep thinking negative only.
    Nice blog, give lots of food for thought.

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    1. I agree with you, Rama. I think I have sent a wrong message here. I didn't mean to say that it has happened because the mom has said so. It was just a story/ a chapter from life I have seen and heard. We all utter many things everyday. We don't even mean half of what we say. Still, our words carry a weight in this cosmic world.

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  12. A very sad story. But a timely reminder to treat everyone with love. You never know till what time we may have the pleasure of someone's company.

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    1. Yep. I agree with you.
      Welcome here and thanks for stopping by.

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  13. Oh my God, that is the worst thing that could happen to a parent. Really feel bad for the mother. As people have mentioned here,parents scold us out of their irritation and the spur of the moment reaction should not be taken too seriously.

    But, yes that does teach us a lesson to think twice before we utter anything, angry or not.

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    1. Yes, Ashwini...It's been a few years this incident has happened. I personally do not know them. I still feel a lot anguish for the mom and the whole family...

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  14. I know that when I get angry and curse my kids, I never ever mean them harm. I know it in my heart that given a choice I would lay down my life for them. So, I would not hold these superstitions to heart. What has to happen happens, no matter how painful! It is tough losing a parent; it is tougher losing a child.

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    1. We all do that, Rachna. Curse our kids in anger and frustration. But, none of us really intend or mean them. I know no one can stop what is going to happen. However, this incident roused a kind of fear in me to cherish every living moment with each member of your family. For good or bad, I stopped saying things like, don't show me your face etc...

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  15. This is terrible! I know mothers curse their kids at time but they never ever mean it. You know, I have this habit of saying, 'Thank you' to my family and friends very now and then. They ask me 'what for' and I say for everything. We should take all our relations very seriously.

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    1. Right Saru, we don't mean them...Even I have the habit of saying 'Thank you' and sorries. And I mean them when I use those words. Indeed, we should be grateful for the family we have.

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  16. Ohh my God that scared me to death. I hope that will never happen to any kid ever.

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    1. It is very scary, Haritha. Such incidents give me chills in the spine.

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  17. This must be so tormenting for the mother-i doubt if she can ever get over the guilt.Our words do not have the power to shape the future but it is best to abstain from such words just because they could hurt the other person; even if said under a load of stress & anger.But housewives are so overburdened with work that they too lose their cool sometimes.

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    1. We lose our cool many times, aunty. I know words said out of restlessness don't mean anything. But when they become true, we realise the actual value of beings around us. This incident taught me how extra precious every little thing in life is..

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  18. I think we lose our cool many times but do not mean most of the things.
    But yes such incidents are very disturbing.

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    1. We really don't, Amit. You are right..these kind of incidents remind me of how precious life is and how much we must care for it and not take it granted. Hey, thanks for stopping by in between your rough nights and busy days..

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