U for Use and throw!!!

Use and throw is the norm these days. Right from pens to paper towels, forks to folks, gums to girl friends; we use and throw what we don't need any more. If it is material things, it's alright. What if we use and throw things that have life and feelings attached? Those things get hurt and start to react and show the reaction of the hurt feelings. That's when the people that USED get confused on what is wrong with these things? (With feelings).

Again, they come in all forms. In the form of friends, boy friends, girl friends, relatives, cousins, colleagues, roommates, neighbors, sometimes siblings too. Fools like me don't realise that you are really being used. You let them use you as long as they can. Not just letting them use you, you also go out of your way; above and beyond to make things happen for them. You cannot bear to see them get hurt or take any pain in the process. In turn, you take all the pains at the cost of your valuable time, money, family and innumerable stuff.

Some of the Use and throw types we come across in our lives:

• Can I see your stamp collection book? You have the rarest of stamps. Can I show it to my parents? Oh yes...oh yes...You wait for a week and hear "Oh so sorry. I lost/misplaced it."
• Lend your books and expect them to return them back. You hear, "Oh ..I thought you don't need them. I gave them to someone else". And they turn their back next time they see you.
• She met him through some common friends. They started seeing each other. She would spend on him as he was still trying to settle. When he found a job, he didn't have time for her any more. He started seeing other girls.
• Your husband's second cousin's sister in law's niece. She is new to town. Doesn't have a car. Poor girl. Needs help. You help in everything from buying grocery to the new car. Once she has the car and the set up, forget about a thank you for everything. You need to still call and ask how she is doing.
• Your kid's classmate's mom. Drops her kids for play dates or baby sit as you are a SAHM. You call to request for a pick up once as you are at the dentist's; you get a sweet soft reply, Oh sorry dear! I wish I could do that. We are going to the soccer practice after school.
• A random friend. I have an interview tomorrow. Can you show me something. I have few questions. You give her an appointment on weekends and she never turns up. She comes on a weekday and you end up staying till midnight only to screw up your next day.
• You need to arrange ladies outings, potlucks, movies and malls. They love you. They need you, but not your kids. Because their kids will be spoiled at the thought of your kids.

There were and are dozens of categories of such people everywhere. Just be attentive and sharp. If you feel you are taken for a ride, give them a piece of cake (your mind). Unfortunately, I am bad at doing that. So, I learned to keep quiet and move away.

What's your experience with these Use and Throw types?